Save Your Long Distance Relationship and avoid breakup
Breakups already suck, but one of the things that can make them even more awful is if you were in a long distance relationship. If this is the case, it is likely that. Yes of course; as long as both of you are adults about it. What I mean is that there are no jealousies expressed regarding the period you were apart. Love is love. How to Break up With a Long Distance Boyfriend/Girlfriend. Ending a long distance relationship can be slightly different than ending another romantic.
But this is good when it comes to No Contact. You want that distance there. The distance is your friend.
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Put him out of your mind as best as you can for your No Contact period, whether it be 21, 30, or 45 days. A couple of the girls on the Facebook group offered the very wise counsel and advice to come back to yourself during your no contact period. Take the time to embrace being alone and think about what you can do to make yourself happy.
Chances are, you were putting a ton of effort into your long distance relationship. So during No Contact, embrace the time to get back to your roots. Instead of logging onto Skype at 9pm each night to talk to your guy, go out dancing with friends, or have dinner with your sister. Work on all of the relationships that inevitably got less attention when you were nurturing your relationship. And take the time to think about you and what you want.
The bottom line is, take some time and energy for yourself. It will act as a reset between you and your ex, help you to get your bearings, and it will likely make him miss you. Take The Quiz The Tightrope between Friends with Benefits and the Friend zone Once you and your guy are back in contact, pay close attention to how he is acting towards you.
Friends with Benefits is a little harder long distance, obviously, but it is possible. Your ex could want sexy photos and texts, phone sex, skype sex. And if you guys do get to the point of a meetup, he may be hoping to get physical.
How to Survive a Long Distance Breakup
On the other hand, you have another, probably more dangerous category: When you and your ex were in a long distance relationship, he probably considered you his main friend and confidante.
So what you have to do is walk the tightrope between the friends with benefits, and the friend zone.
- The Tightrope between Friends with Benefits and the Friend zone
- Embrace No Contact
- How to Survive a Long Distance Breakup
Because of that, you should keep up some flirting in your communications so that he has no choice but to see you in an attractive light. Other techniques you can use to maintain this balance include: When you sense him pulling away, you pull back too.
Many women tend to do the opposite, and when their guy starts pulling away, they start pushing. Sometimes guys just need space. It is important to give it to them. They will always be back.
Men are built to chase. Once you two are broken up, you are no longer required to make those sacrifices. Jealousy — Piggy-backing off of the idea of making him wonder: Add some jealousy techniques. Post pictures of you out at the club looking hot. People care about what their friends and family think of the person they are seeing. Positive Memories — One of the wonderful ladies on our group mentioned that she texted he ex a lot of memory texts. Who are they out with? Do they really love me?
Are they thinking about breaking it off??? Everyone in a long distance relationship has thoughts like these now and again. But when you find yourself fretting and feeling anxious when they are out of contact or offline for any length of time, you have a problem. Being constantly in touch does not guarantee things are working between you two.
In fact, checking up on each other every hour is more like stalking your partner rather than caring for them. Have you started to talk about whether and how you might close the gap?
If you find yourself in this situation and things stay this way for more than a week or two, then alarm bells should be going off.
Make A Together List 3. There Are No More Romantic Surprises When is the last time you received or sent those lovely open-when letters sprinkled with their favorite perfume, or cute happy snaps of two of you having fun together?
They are the flour, salt, and eggs in the cake, sure. But every cake needs some sugar, too. And a little bit of icing goes a long way, as well.
Do things feel like a one-way street? Have they felt like that for a while? If your long distance relationship is going to last, you need to be a team. Both of you fight the difficulties together. When one of you stops fighting to make it work, the relationship will stop working too. When your partner starts doing all the talking… about themselves.