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If you're a college student like me, it's likely you live in two different places — your hometown and your college town. This means that long distance friendships. For all of those people that are missing someone special. And 10 years from now, you can look back and have an accurate account of your long-distance friendship once you're (hopefully) back in the.
This is a great way to see yourself through your friends' eyes, and to remember and revive dreams that you had in mind. Create a group journal Journals are very personal, but our closest friendships often act as therapy sessions as well.
If your bestie is across the country or across the world, it might feel super impersonal to tell her that deep, dark thing you've been struggling with. A group journal allows you to write it down, and also gives your friend time to process and think about how to respond.
Don't worry, you can also journal happy things, too! Send daily inspirational quotes in the group chat This is great for a larger group of friends trying to keep in touch regularly. Assign each person a day, and on each one's assigned day, that person should post a quote of inspiration in the group chat.
This keeps everyone's vibes positive and starts your day off with spunk! Give each other mini surprise gifts If you know your girl loves vintage books or bright colored nail polish or unique shot glasses, send one every now and then. This is a cool way to let your friend know that you're thinking about them, even though they're far away.
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You might not be able to call them up and say, "Hey, let me take you to brunch this weekend," but you can still show them it's all love. Coordinate meditation times This is a free way to vibe out together and keep it positive. It also keeps you both accountable if you've both promised yourselves you'll meditate more this year. Snail mail polaroids of your favorite outings Y'all might not be able to hit that summer festival together anymore, but you can still experience it through each other's eyes.
Did you move to a new city? Take your friend on a tour with you through the polaroids you take. You can both create photo albums of each other's adventures and feel as though you were side by side.
This can be sent via snail mail for a surprise. Words With Friends Mobile games that can be played with friends will be your new game night! You might not be able to get in that in-person game of Scrabble, but Words with Friends is here to make sure that you continue torturing your group with your extensive vocabulary.
Do your own throwback Thursdays Have old photo albums stacked in your apartment in your new city of you and your friends from childhood? Snap a photo of a photo on your cell and send them to your friends for your own personal dose of the nostalgic Throwback Thursdays.
Small talk is key. There are plenty of free messaging apps, so don't gab just once every two weeks. There really is no excuse. Also, if she works in an office, add her on Gchat so you can ping her at random times during the day -- even if it's just to share the most recent completely random thing you've dug up on the Internet. Remember, her family is your family. If her mom and brother are in town, take them to dinner.
Photo by Peter Manidis Anything or anyone that reminds you of your best friend is sure to put you in a good mood. Cozying up to her family and making sure to connect with them every once in a while will only solidify the obvious: If it reaches the point where her mom feels comfortable enough questioning your life choices just as your own mom would, you know you're at the top of the best friend-scale and you're in this relationship for the long haul.
Long-distance book club, anyone? Because best friends who read together, stay together. Some of the best book suggestions have come my way from across the pond.
And if you're reading the same book at the same time, there's that much more for the two of you to talk about and feel connected about. Every once in a while, throw in a story about friendships that stands the test of time and distance see: Waiting To Exhale and Beaches. Then hop on the phone so you can chat about how "that's soooo us! Take mini trips together -- meet somewhere halfway between the both of you. Photo by Luis Dias via px. Explore the world together.
There might be times when you don't have the money or time to fly all the way to see her, but what about meeting half way? Preferably somewhere you both haven't been to, so you can turn your reunion into a mini-adventure. This will save you both time and money, and you'll still get to see each other. Pick up the phone even if you can't talk to just say, "Hi!
I miss you, but I can't talk now. Even if you're busy at work, taking the time to answer a call from your BFF just to tell them you can't chat is more satisfying than ignoring the call altogether.
Even on the busiest of days, everyone has three minutes to spare. Write her an actual physical letter every once in a while. Photo by Luiz Laercio In an age when technology has basically taken over every second of every day of our lives, take the time to hand-make something for your best friend. Send her a written letter or a postcard so she can add it to her collection of BFF mementos.
Plus, nothing says "I care about you" like a hand-made anything. Have and keep secrets that no one else knows. As is expected, you probably have not one, but a few solid people you can share pretty much anything with. Even so, make it a point to keep some things strictly between you and your best friend. Knowing that you trust each other enough to disclose something that no one else in the world is aware of will strengthen the bond you have with one another.
Send the occasional care package to brighten up her day. Photo by Travis Modisette via px. There's probably a few things from home that your best friend can't get where she lives now, or vice versa. Every now and then, surprise her with a care package that contains all of her favorite goodies. Or just wait until the end of the year and wrap her birthday, Christmas and grad-school graduation gift into one.
She'll feel like she won the lottery.
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Make future plans to "one day" live in the same city and romanticize about how amazing that would be. They will, of course, be best friends, and if things go really well, two of them will fall in love so you can all be "officially" family.
Long-distance best-friendships are all about the "one-days. On that note, start dreaming about the big future events that will bring you closer together. Photo by Rafael Hernandez via px.
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Start talking about ambitions and career goals. Start thinking about all the good things you both want to achieve and can't wait to share with one another. Start outlining weddings, family Christmases and vacations to the beach. Dare to dream a little bit and then make sure to stay friends long enough to watch all of those dreams come true.
Always have the next time you're going to see each other in the works, so that you'll have something to look forward to.