How to maintain a healthy adult relationship with your parents | Canadian Living
While establishing a healthy relationship with your parents sounds While these type of relationships are harder to re-establish and maintain. New Changes. Of course you love your parents — that's a given. But at times, maintaining the bond between parent and adult child can be as. Whether you're living with them or not, it's always important to maintain a good relationship with them even if you aren't particularly close.
Kathleen Smith, PhD A funny thing happens when you become an adult. You finally start to realize that your parents are real humans, flaws and all. Family is family, and there is always opportunity for conflict as well as growth. Even as an adult, you might vacillate between wanting your parents to nurture and care for you and wanting them to treat you like an independent adult. Here are some other common problems you may experience with your parents as an adult: Disagreeing on how to parent your own children Hearing constant complaints or criticism from your parents Disagreeing about their future medical care or living arrangements Feeling lingering hurt about childhood issues Having different political or religious beliefs Disagreeing about finances Agreeing on boundaries or frequency of contact Navigating these family roles takes time, practice, and lots of communication.
Your parents may have different priorities, values, and goals than you do. They may have different opinions about parenting or family roles.
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They are more likely to treat you like an adult if you act like one. For example, you might feel tempted to call your mother to complain every time you have a fight with your spouse. Better yet - ask whether your mum-in-law can teach you the recipe to one or two dishes! Dress to impress You may not think much of it, but how you dress can influence your spouse's parents' impression of you more than you know.
Always aim to look well-groomed and put together when you're meeting the in-laws. Choose family appropriate outfits that are modest but stylish and still show off your personality. Run a tight ship at home Get your ducks in a row and keep your home organised, clean and presentable. You never know when your in-laws may drop by or any other guests for that matter and you don't want to welcome them into a wreck of a living room.
Don't sweat the small stuff A psychologist from Cambridge University has discovered that wives are "programmed" to fight with their mother-in-laws.
How to maintain a healthy adult relationship with your parents
Even if you don't get along like a house on fire, you can still maintain a cordial relationship and the key to that, is to pick which battles to fight. Avoid pointless bickering because it won't lead to any good for either of you.
Cure with kindness Okay, so maybe you had a disagreement or didn't see eye to eye on something. Try to get back into their good books by spoiling your in-laws a little.
No relationship is perfect and there will be speed bumps along the way but remember, it is always in your best interests to have your parents-in-law on your side. Do call them regularly Even if you don't have time to meet your in-laws in person or you both live in different countriesalways try to check in regularly so that they know they're in your thoughts.
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Familiarity breeds affection so regularly setting aside time to talk to them will ease the relationship and put you in a positive light. Learn when to bite your tongue Try to agree to disagree if you find yourself arguing with your in-laws about an issue. Find ways to be grateful for them.
At the very least, remember that they raised the person you love to become who he or she is, so try to look for the good because it could always be worse!