Created To Be His Helpmeet: Discovering the Dangers ~ Alicia A. Willis
Created to Be His Help Meet, by author Debi Pearl, is one of these marriage manuals, and is especially popular in fundamentalist and Christian homeschool. Buy Created to Be His Help Meet: Discover How God Can Make Your Marriage Glorious by Debi Pearl (ISBN: ) from Amazon's Book Store. Created to be His Help Meet has ratings and reviews. Melissa said: When I started this book, I did so with a day time bible study group and an.
Here is an example from early in the book: First she mocks her ugly appearance, and then her ugly demeanor. When a woman writes to ask Pearl how to deal with a husband who idolizes television and allows their young children to view inappropriate shows, Pearl responds by telling her to imagine the day her husband leaves her. The young children will cry when you leave for work, and the older children will be glad to see you go so they can exercise their new found liberties.
If you continue to dishonor your husband, the above scenario will likely become our own personal nightmare—soon! It got worse when he wanted you to do something exotic sexually. Divorce is never planned, but is almost always preceded by certain avoidable reactive behavior and events. Do you know who created you, and do you know he is the same God who expects you to freely give sex to your husband? She is a harsh, critical and angry person and this ugly tone pervades this book. Where is the love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self-control that ought to mark the Christian, and especially the Christian mentor?
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Who would want their wife or their daughter or anyone else to be mentored by a harsh, graceless, angry person like Debi Pearl? And she ignores where the Apostle Paul actually commends women for laboring with him in Phillippians 4: To allow someone else to control your life is much harder than taking control of it yourself.
A husband has authority to tell his wife what to wear, where to go, whom to talk to, how to spend her time, when to speak and when not to, even if he is unreasonable and insensitive.
First the chain of authority must remain intact, even to the point of allowing some abuse. The other reason is…. When God puts you in subjection to a man whom he knows is going to cause you to suffer, it is with the understanding that you are obeying God by enduring the wrongful suffering.
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And when you suffer wrongfully, as unto the Lord, you bring great glory to God. I know about their pain.
Now I will go down and save my people from the Egyptians. I will take them from that land and lead them to a good land where they can be free from these troubles. It is a land filled with many good things. Debi says, When you obey your husband you obey God. The Bible distinguishes between obeying God and obeying man.
Remember when King Herod tried to stand in the place of God, he was immediately struck down. He rules through delegated authority. Our attitude towards those whom God sets in delegated authority over us is….
Discipleship, Shepherding, Commitment, p. He allows certain latitude for the authority to be wrong and still retain the office. How about confessing herself since she was helping? These would be biblical and godly instructions. Another thing - and this is the last one, I promise - she instructs women to visit their husbands in jail who have molested their children There is a time for forgiveness, there is a time for confronting your offender, and yes he is their father, but this turned my stomach and it's in knots writing this.
Making an innocent child visit and pretend everything is okay with the man who tarnished and stole their innocence Don't bad mouth the man, but don't bring him jailbait either.
And - okay, I do have one more - I grew tired of her using scare tactics to get the reader to do the right and in her mind "godly" thing by your husband. He will have an affair if you don't do this. He will leave you for someone else if you don't do that. I love God, and I love my husband and I serve both out of reverence for God because it is love that drives me, it is joy, it is security in my faith and in my God.
I know he will take care of me and I desire Him above all else Having said all of this, I will say that I agree about serving, I agree we need to consider others before ourselves, and we especially need to consider our husbands above ourselves.
But I will have to leave the rest. My husband and I read this together, and he doesn't like it at all. He feels like women have been demoted and degraded to nothing when he believes his daughter and I to be glorious, wonderful, intelligent and worthy of godly advice. Women weren't created to be doormats - created for men, yes, but to complete them, not to be subservient - most of all created for God.
Dan appreciates me most when I encourage him to think outside of himself, and he thanks me when I push him through laziness just like I appreciate his wisdom and insight and learn from his abandon and zest for life.