Encouraging Your Spouse's Relationship With God - Humble Faith Family Wellness
Believing in God is one thing; having a relationship with Him is another. Just like a marriage, having a relationship with God takes effort and. Christ must be the foundation of the relationship, with both of you looking to As you rest in God's plan, in his timing, pray for a spouse who is. Is the correct order God, spouse, children, family, friends? Answer: The Bible does not lay out a step-by-step order for family relationship priorities. However.
A person grows closer to God as they learn how to glorify Him and apply what they learn from reading the Bible. Here is a short list of the ways a person can glorify the Lord.
Repent and believe that Jesus Christ is Lord 2. Love others as yourself 4. Read the Bible daily 5. Share the gospel with unbelievers As you do these things, your relationship with the Lord will grow. As your relationship with the Lord grows, so will your relationship with your spouse. The opposite is also true. The farther your relationship is from the Lord, the farther away you are in relation to your spouse. This also looks back at the temptation of the woman to change her husband by her incessant words and probably complaints 1 Pet 3: She instead restrains her words.
Solomon describes a person who restrains his words as wise. Listen to what he says in Proverbs She is gentle and meek--in control of her emotions and especially her anger.
Encouraging Your Spouse’s Relationship With God
She is reserved in the use of her words. This demonstrates her wisdom. But let us hear these are traits to be practiced not only by the woman but to be practiced by the husband as well. He is meek, in control of his emotions and his anger, and practices restraint with his words. The Christian home is not superficial, concerned with the outward appearance. They are not consumed with the external appearance in their clothes, makeup, or skin.
The secular home is consumed with these things, but not the godly home. Let it be known that this focus on the outward appearance is a major struggle for many families including Christian ones. The number one reason for divorce is finances. But not the godly home. The godly home is totally consumed with the inside. In fact, they choose not to store up riches because it protects their heart Matt 6: The godly home protects their heart from worshiping things of this world by not storing up the wealth of this world because it has a tendency to steal their heart and crowd out the Word of God as Christ taught Matt If their treasure is clothes, cars, phones, electronics, etc.
The godly home is all about the inside. How can she protect herself from being conformed into the value system of the world? How can Christians marriages protect themselves from this shallow focus on the external? In a Godly Marriage, the Husband Knows His Wife Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Many have wondered if Peter gave so much attention to the woman because the majority of people in these churches were actually women. It is true that women have typically been the most spiritual partners in marriages.
They are typically the ones most involved in serving. As pastors, we often watch the wives from the pulpit who are intently watching and listening, while the husbands are struggling to stay awake during service.
This shows part of the reason the church, the home, and our society are in such a poor state. Not many men are willing to step up and lead like Christ in the home and in society by setting a righteous example. There is a tremendous need to restore biblical manhood in the church, where men are assertive in leading spiritually. I often tell my wife if I was one of the single girls on a college campus these days, most likely I would just stay single.
There are so few men who are willing to be spiritual leaders. I remember leading a Lifestyle Discipleship School one semester at the university, which started every weekday morning at 7: We had like twenty people, and only three to five of them were guys. This is a commentary on the church. There is a tremendous lack of male spiritual leadership in the church. We will actually pull several points out of this one verse.
In this verse, he gives men a secret on how to love and better serve their wives. Listen again to 1 Peter 3: What is one of the things a husband must do to develop a godly marriage? He must develop a knowledge base. What is this knowledge base?
There are several types of knowledge the husband must cultivate. The husband should intently study his wife.
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He needs to learn her likes and her dislikes so he can better minister to her. I will share a little about one of the things I have learned about my wife. My wife is a hard worker, and she is very empathetic with people. She cares for others. But because of this, she sometimes takes on too much of a load, whether it is meeting with people or cooking for them. One of the ways I have learned to love her is by protecting her.
We are going to order out. I know she really likes it if I do things around the house. I could see the pattern that would lead toward frustration but never really responded to it, which in turn brought frustration in the marriage.
Now I am a veteran of over seven years and I have learned to better understand her rhythms and my rhythm. How else does the husband dwell with his wife according to knowledge? I think this is one of the things that is implied by this knowledge the husband must have. If he is going to be godly husband, he must not only know his wife but Scripture as well and relate to his wife on the basis of Scripture.
Listen to Ephesians 5: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless emphasis mine.
One of the things the husband must do in serving his wife is study the Word of God with her, teach her the Word of God, and also help her apply it so she can be without stain or wrinkle. He needs to wash her blemishes, her insecurities. He must build her up in the inner person so she can fulfill all that God has called her to do. The husband plays the role of Christ. In the same way, Christ equips the church to serve through the Word of God, he calls the husband to do that with his wife.
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The husband must dwell with his wife according to the knowledge of Scripture. The husband needs to learn and study Scripture in order to be obedient to God. He may apply this knowledge by leading in family devotions, taking the family to a Bible-preaching church, and simply exhorting the wife and children to daily holiness.
This is very important for young single women to understand so that as they search for a husband, they will look for a man who is a spiritual leader. I know the pickings are slim. The world can give you a husband, but a godly spouse is a gift from the Lord. Listen to Proverbs Look for someone that knows the Word and teaches it not only with their mouths but with their lives. This is also a call for young men to prepare themselves.
What else is the man called to do? What are some unique things that you have learned about your spouse that help you better serve him or her? How can you be more faithful in serving him your spouse? In a Godly Marriage, a Husband Needs to Dwell with His Wife Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers emphasis mine.
This is very important to say because many homes fail specifically on this issue. The husband is not at home. He is not at home because of work; he is not at home because of pleasure.
He is not at home because at home there is stress. One of the things that is needed for a godly marriage is for the husband to dwell with his wife. Often in our society the job demands have become almost unreasonable. Satan is the ruler of this world, the ruler of this wicked age, and he knows what he is doing.
In some jobs, it is almost impossible for a husband to be at home, and that includes the pastorate. One of the reasons pastor kids and missionary kids have such bad reputations is because many times, the fathers, the pastors, are not around. They are too busy doing ministry. Look, it is impossible to be a good pastor without being a good husband and a father 1 Tim 3: And in order to do this, men must be at home.
In fact, this is something I have seen a lot in the church, since I served as a youth pastor for seven years. Listen to what Paul said in Ephesians 6: Paul tells the fathers to not push the children to wrath but to train them in the instruction of the Lord. In order to train them in the instruction of the Lord, the father has to be around.
One of the main ways a child is provoked to wrath is because fathers are not home. Many of these children grow up not really knowing their father because he was never around, and therefore, they grow up with a tremendous anger. We are raising an angry generation of children.
And as you know, children whose fathers are not around are more prone to divorce, crime, abuse, depression, suicide, etc. Now practically this may mean changing careers or having a lesser level of living. A lot of these jobs today will not let you be home.
Our churches are so far away from God they, in a sense, demand for pastors to not be good fathers or husbands. I want to honor God before I honor any church or job. Even unbelievers care for their family. A characteristic of a godly marriage is the husband being home, dwelling with his wife and kids. How do you think godly single women should respond to this drought?
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In a Godly Marriage, Couples Honor Their Differences Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner. What does he mean by weaker vessel? In general, men are stronger physically than women and also sometimes emotionally. The husband must honor these differences, rather than beleaguering them, which is very common in marriage. One of the ways this often plays out in marriage is that husbands and wives look upon these differences with disdain.
In one sense, the husband tries to make the woman more masculine like he is. The wife tries to make the husband more feminine. Why does Peter tell the husbands to be more considerate about the wives and not vice versa? If God calls the brick and the vase to dance, which vessel is typically going to get hurt? Many times marriage is like this. The brick is constantly hurting the vase. They have a different structure, and therefore, the brick needs to be delicate in how he handles the vase.
My wife and I like to banter over stuff like the milk expiration date. My wife likes to throw away the milk the day the milk is past the date. I want to eat the leftovers that have been in the fridge for a week, and my wife wants to throw them away.
The Marriage Covenant Marriage was created by God to unite a man and woman for life. In Judaism, marriage is a covenant between two people: In a marriage covenant, a man and woman promise to devote themselves to only each other, and they pledge to be faithful and loyal to one another.
Obviously, when you marry someone, you expect them to spend time with you, love you, and be devoted to you. In the Bible, God often described His relationship with His people as a marriage. He was the husband and His people were His bride. God expected His people to be devoted to Him alone ; having other gods was not ok with Him, and in His eyes, it was like adultery.
More than anything, God wanted a people to call His own. Then you will know that I am the Lord your God, who brought you out from under the yoke of the Egyptians. This is where the Ten Commandments came in, and at the top of this list was this: